All too often the question “Why do people stay in abusive relationships?” is posed to survivors, implying that they are to blame for the abuse. Instead, questions like “How did the person causing harm prevent their partner from leaving?” or “Why do perpetrators of abuse hurt the person they claim to love?” are more appropriate. There are serious factors that weigh on the survivor’s decision to leave: Leaving can be dangerous: Many people experiencing intimate partner violence realistically fear that

A Few Words of Guidance: It’s important not to be judgmental if a loved one is experiencing domestic violence. Relationship abuse can be a very isolating experience, and many victims already blame themselves for what’s happening. Having a lifeline to a friend or family member can make all the difference in a person’s ability to break free from domestic violence. Be patient and always offer a listening ear. Use gender neutral language (partner, they, etc) when speaking about the person

Planning for Safety Create a Safety Plan: If you are in or are planning to leave a violent relationship, a safety plan can be a very valuable resource. A safety plan will help you think through some of the steps you may decide to take to protect yourself and your children. You can receive support in creating a safety plan from counselors on the Philadelphia Domestic Violence Hotline (1-866-723-3014). Your safety plan may include: Know where you can get help.

It can be difficult to acknowledge that you or someone you care about is in an abusive relationship. Domestic violence does not always look the same, but there are some warning signs that may indicate you are in an abusive relationship. Take a few minutes to answer these questions: Does your partner constantly insult you or put you down? Does your partner want to know what you do and where you are at all times? Does your partner act really

Intimate partner violence can occur in many different forms. Regardless of whether it is physical, emotional or takes some other form, abuse often follows an escalating pattern in which the controlling behaviors worsen over time. The abusive partner may use oppression systems already set in our society to assert his or her priviledges against the other person. Physical Abuse Perhaps the most recognized form, physical abuse may include behaviors such as: Hitting, slapping, punching, kicking Burning Strangulation Damaging personal property

Leaving an emotionally abusive relationship is a journey that requires immense courage, strength, and support. Emotional abuse, while not always visible, can have deep and lasting effects on a person’s self-esteem, mental health, and overall well-being. Understanding the steps to safely and effectively leave such a relationship is crucial for reclaiming your life and beginning the healing process. Recognizing Emotional Abuse Emotional abuse can take many forms, including manipulation, gaslighting, constant criticism, isolation from loved ones, and control over your